As I am sitting here in Starbucks, I noticed a couple in their 50s walk toward the seating area where they have the comfortable chairs. As they approached the chairs, I noticed that there was only one padded, comfortable chair available. I was curious to see what this man would do.
My first thought was of my father and what he would have done. This would be a no brainer for my dad—he would had obviously given the chair to my mom, and either stood by her side until another chair became available, or he would have gotten a wooden hard chair, and sat by her side.
Well, to my surprise, this man sat in the comfortable chair with no thought or concern for his wife. His wife then went to a section where there was an available wooden chair and then carried this chair next to her husband and sat by his side. This man did not regard any of this as odd…or wrong.
Although this man’s demeanor was strong and confident, he lacks the one thing that would actually make him a great leader… a servant’s heart. Men were created to be leaders, not dictators. A woman desires to follow a great man—that is how she was wired. The problem is that most men are not real men anymore; they have become wimps, or dictators. Many men have forgotten that one of the greatest secrets to a happy marriage lies in his ability to serve his wife. You need to treat your wife like a Queen if you want her to treat you like a King. A great woman completes a man, but it is the responsibility of the man to help his wife become that person. A marriage is a team effort, but it is the man’s responsibility to head up that team. Men, whether you like it or not, the health of your marriage is your responsibility. A great marriage begins with you.
Men, it’s time to step up to the plate and start leading our marriage and families—it’s time to become real men.